|
Post by kasila84 on Mar 10, 2009 15:35:58 GMT -5
Greetings everybody,
This is my first thread here at The Bridge.
I have a dating story to share and I am interested in any feedback you might have.
I met a young man at a get together of a mutual friend. We exchanged numbers and about a month later ( I was out of town, he was out of town, he was in the hospital) we had a conversation over the phone to get to know each other a little bit.
I received text messages and phone calls from him over the time of a few weeks and after a while I got to a point where I did not understand what was going on.
I did not understand why he was texting me and leaving me messages and calling me but not asking me out on a date. My thoughts were that if he was contacting me on a regular basis (more than some of my family members!) then he must be interested. But he was not asking me out on a date.I did not hear from him for a while and I had let it go.
Out of the blue I heard from him and not long after that I called him and asked him what was going on. He said he was on a vacation/trip so was out of town. My response was well, if you wanted to take me out on a date you would have done so by now right? So I said that we should probably go our separate ways. That might seem harsh but the situation just seemed bizarre to me.
So, Bridge family, have any of you been on either side of a similar situation? How did you handle it? Do you wish you had handled it differently?
|
|
|
Post by kasila84 on Mar 11, 2009 18:28:41 GMT -5
I should have added a disclaimer in my original post for this thread: I am fairly traditional when it comes to dating. When I think of ways that a man who is interested in dating can really get to know me on a meaningful level... text messaging and pretty much any form of communication that cannot claim an age range in the double digits does not cut it.
I'm not saying that he has to tie up the horse and buggy and mosey on up to my log cabin to take me for a walk around the pond lol but a little initiative can go a long way.
I'm not above doing what I have to do to 'throw my apron on, and scrub to reveal a shine' but he's gotta meet me half way ya dig? lol
|
|
|
Post by happyness on Sept 21, 2009 15:30:27 GMT -5
Kasila84, it sounds like you already know the answer but are just looking for confirmation. Unless this young man is 16 years old, he would have asked you out if he was truly interested. Texting and such is for little boys. A MAN would do things the right way. Call you. Ask you out. Get to know your likes and dislikes, etc. A woman should not have to ask a man out, especially, not on a first date.
I'm not expert on dating, but that is my honest opinion.
Good luck!
|
|