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Post by solacim on May 8, 2008 0:45:51 GMT -5
Dating should be all about having fun while attempting to meet someone new. It is not about pimping someone out on the food or drink tip, it should involve light conversation and lots of laughter. A cool place would be a nice hotel bar with an ocean view and minimal people which allows for decent conversation without shouting. As for who should pay, just go dutch since it is a first meeting and let go of all the FALSE expectations and imaginary lists, just have fun.
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Post by solacim on May 8, 2008 0:46:07 GMT -5
Many here will view first date sex as dangerous and almost 'One-night-standish'. But there are instances where the first date may follow initial contact with someone that was fairly lengthy. I remember a time, when I was single, where I was working at an out-door Fair on behalf of my company (we were sponsers of a vehicle give-away). I met one of the Fair organizers on the first day of the Fair at a kick-off luncheon. We sat next to each other at lunch. We interacted all day on several occasions until midnight at the Fair. I suggested that we should have dinner soon during one of several conversations. The next evening, we both were working at the Fair, but decided to leave around 7 and go to Santa Monica for dinner. We cliqued immediately and talked and tinked glasses for three hours, and then went for a ride on the coast in my new car. We never made it to her apartment....sex by the ocean in the back seat of a luxury car with Prince slow jams playing....it was the sexiest, most passionate thing either of us had done in a while. So there it was....first date sex. And it was goooood! Very passionate and exciting.
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Post by jazzstan on May 8, 2008 14:58:28 GMT -5
Have not dated since my divorce in 07'and refuse to live dangerously by having casual sex. Will remain celibate until i meet my next wife.
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Post by eastwood on May 8, 2008 16:27:59 GMT -5
Hello, all
I am open to having sex on the first date, and don't believe it is that bad of a thing. Now, we're all on our different maturity/spiritual/emotional/even physical levels, so things could spin madly out of control...before, during, or after the actual act. So one must be prepared for that.
That being said, I agree with someone earlier (well, a few of you) who mentioned that there is definitely some deep-ish thought needed before diving headlong into anything (pun intended). But along with that thought, one must get in tune with that "vibe" he/she gets from the person. Many times, we forget about that as an able tool to manage our lives. use it.
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Post by smchadwic on May 13, 2008 13:07:09 GMT -5
I say leave something to look forward to. What's the rush?
I don't care how much a man says he won't judge you, I think they do. I believe that men view women who give it up too soon as easy and will never take that chick seriously. She'll always be his jump off.
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Post by happyness on Sept 21, 2009 15:26:35 GMT -5
I'm conducting yet another Poll to see where people's attitudes are today regarding dating. Please vote the way you actually conduct yourself on dates. The Poll question is: "Are you open to sex on the first date?" If yes or no, please leave a comment as to why. If none of the choices appeal to you, please vote "Other" and then leave a comment explaining why. Please be sure to take a few moments to actually vote in the poll. If you wish to add commentary, please do so. I really want to know what men and women think about dating in 2008. Darryl James I've done it and perhaps will do it again. But here is the thing (and this may be perplexing). I would never consider pursuing a long-term committed relationship with a man whom I've had sex with on the first date. He would instantly go into the "maintenance man" category. I think some men want to see how far a woman will go on the first date as a test. However, I view it as a test as well. A man who would even try to sleep with me on the first date obviously doesn't want to get to know me. So if I chose to take it to that level and have SAFE sex with him, it would be strictly to have my needs met and that would be all. I wouldn't look at him the same and there would be no chance at anything significant in our future.
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Post by robxb on May 11, 2010 21:29:27 GMT -5
Hell I'd have to be really feeling a woman and she would have to reciprocate in order for me to "hit it" on the first date. The moon would actually have to turn from orange to white then back to orange again! I try to get to know a lady's mind and social behavior to a certain extent before I lurk into the body as there are some nasty, shisty women out there. This is not to say I'm not enjoying the presence of a fine sista during my presence. Sometimes you can pick up on ones you don't care for by going out once or twice. Or you can find out how it is when you have in depth conversations with them. For example, one sista I took out said to me, "If we get into an accident, I WILL SUE YOU...I'm just being real." Then she elaborated on how she orders items from Nordstroms and Victoria Secrets and have it delivered and call the stores and say she never signed for the items. Scandalous! If I was thinking long term, then I would have definitely not have been cool with her. Some fellas can play charades and smile and say anything they want to the ladies just to "hit it" but I can't. I have to say what I feel and think about you! I go with the old adage "slow your roll". If she's feeling you and enjoys you she will call you just as much as you call her. Otherwise, keep it movin!
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