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Post by Darryl James on Apr 30, 2008 11:48:23 GMT -5
I'm conducting yet another Poll to see where people's attitudes are today regarding dating. Please vote the way you actually conduct yourself on dates.
I’d like to know with votes and comments what people think is a good first date and why. If none of the choices appeal to you, please vote "Other" and then leave a comment explaining why.
On the last poll, people read it and commented, but we didn’t get a lot of actual votes. Please be sure to take a few moments to actually vote in the poll.
If you wish to add commentary, please do so. I really want to know what men and women think about dating in 2008.
Darryl James
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Post by smchadwic on Apr 30, 2008 11:56:37 GMT -5
I think that coffee/tea first dates are nice because it gives you a chance to really converse with the person. Going to a movie is cool but you can't talk and really get to know the person. Clubs and drinking are out of the question. To me that is a set up for too much to go too wrong too soon. LOL
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Post by wurldtravler on Apr 30, 2008 12:00:54 GMT -5
A coffee shop is a great first date. A place that isn't loud and you can sit as long as you want.
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Post by filmzilla on Apr 30, 2008 12:29:36 GMT -5
coffee is always good you can talk and pay attention to what the other person is trying to communicate instead of watching the latest hollywood fluff and screaming over 120 db of sound in dolby thx.
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Post by gdeyampert on Apr 30, 2008 12:57:52 GMT -5
Dinner is always a good 1st date. You can see how the other person reacts in a reasonably controlled situation and depending upon the place you can have good conversation. Usually dinner is a low stress environment and it gives the gentleman an opportunity to show off his home training & etiquette with some leadership skills. Besides, if it doesn't work, at the very least you have had a good meal with a small investment of time and money.
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Post by starbuck on Apr 30, 2008 13:39:48 GMT -5
I chose coffee because it gives you the opportunity to sit down, and really get to know each other w/out any distractions such as: going to the movies, or any activity that will take away from the focus of your date. It also opens the door to having an engaging conversation and eye contact. Which to me is very important because it lets me know that your interested to what I have to say (vice versa).
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Post by urbangyrl812 on Apr 30, 2008 16:35:08 GMT -5
Overall, a 1st date for me and the person in question to get to know each other and to see if you want to see this person often. The date shouldn't be expensive or elaborate. A good date is a cup or coffee or tea, meet at a semi-private public place and talk .....
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Post by tonie818 on Apr 30, 2008 16:45:11 GMT -5
I prefer coffee houses for a first date because it allows me to relax and not have to much going on around us so we can concentrate on each other. This allows us to get to know each other and go thru the get to know questions and answers without interruption. It also doesn't cost to much just in case there is not love connection no one is feeling taken advantage of.
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Post by blacklikeme on Apr 30, 2008 21:08:29 GMT -5
I also prefer the coffee house date,it lets both people be themselves,the 30 second rule applies,you'll know if by then how far intellectully and visually this situation can go.
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Post by seleniascott on May 2, 2008 10:10:48 GMT -5
I think if it is a true FIRST DATE (i.e. you know what they look like enough to ask them out and there was chemistry) then first impressions are important and dinner says, let me treat you, let me show you a nice time. That being said... if it is your FIRST MEETING (i.e. you met them on line or somebody is setting you up and you dont know) then I say coffee is perfect! Then if all goes well, take them on a first date. But people... Starbucks can not be considered a date place under any circumstances, it is stricktly a meeting place, a social club if you will. Darryl babe, let's clarify this please... por favor :-) I miss talking to you, can we grab some coffee. LOL!
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Post by Darryl James on May 2, 2008 11:13:44 GMT -5
Hi Selenia--great to see you on here. It's okay that you don't view coffee as a date, but I won't clarify, because everyone has their own standards. That's why I set up the poll. And, yes, we can grab coffee. It's been a million years and we should catch up.
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Post by angel on May 4, 2008 20:37:55 GMT -5
I chose "coffee" as the best first date because it's an ideal setting for conversation and there are minimal distractions. Dinner is a little more intimate as a first date (depending on the restaurant I guess), and it's impossible to really get to know someone on a first date while staring at a large movie screen for several hours. Also, if a man is willing to have coffee with me as a first date he's most likely interested in truly getting to know me rather than just gettin' physical.
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Post by Cheryl on Oct 21, 2008 16:29:01 GMT -5
I chose other.....a walk in the park will do for me! I've traveled half way around the world and seen alot of great things and people and I find nothing wrong with simplicity! I don't like pressure on first dates....we could cook for eachother or go bowling or for a country drive on a sunny day! I also like to do volunteer work and it's a good way to see if the guy is kind and giving in his nature! Most times I'm in mommy mode and don't feel like getting dressed up to go out and besides he doesn't have to spend much money and if I don't like him I don't feel bad! We shared a nice day together and that's all it was meant to be!
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